A friend or relative may wish to say a few words during a funeral service about the person who has died. This is called a Eulogy.
You may like to watch our animation video below for information on how to write a eulogy.
“Eulogies are for everyone. They are a reminder that each of us leads a life of special interest and value and that each of us is unique.” Andrew Motion
How to write a eulogy
In the past eulogies would have been delivered by the religious officiant in the church or chapel, a practice that continues in more traditional funerals.
However, increasingly funerals now involve some form of personal input from the people present.
Writing and giving a eulogy
Writing and giving a eulogy is a way of saying farewell to someone who has died – it helps to bring the person to life in the minds of the audience. Family, friends and work colleagues often speak about the person’s life, read poems they may have written, or read out a letter written by the deceased themselves. It must also be remembered that sometimes the emotion of the occasion can be too much for some people.
For the majority of us, writing and giving a eulogy is something we have no experience of and therefore we find it difficult to know where to start. Our eulogy guide “Well Chosen Words – How to write a eulogy” can give you advice on how to write a eulogy and what to include.
Here are some prompts to help you get started:
- Who am I speaking to?
- How would the person like to be remembered?
- What made them special? What were their favourite pastimes, interests, likes and dislikes?
- When were they happiest?
- Who was really close to them?
- What did I really like about them? What did other people really like about them?
- What are the highlights of their life story?
- If I could say only 3 things about them, what would they be?
- Who can help me check my facts?
- Do I want somebody else to give the eulogy on my behalf on the day?
- Is anybody else planning to speak about the person at the funeral? Do we need to avoid saying the same thing twice?
Orders of service
In the past, orders of service showed only the name of the person, their date of birth and death and the words of hymns to be sung. Now many include photographs, poetry or stories about the deceased and explicitly refer to the ceremony as a ‘celebration’ of their life.
When you have made your choices we will provide you with a written estimate of the funeral costs. If, at this stage, you would like to change anything we will help you do this, although any changes may affect the final funeral costs.